I’ve come to the conclusion that I’m not a good lover.  Most of the traits mentioned of great lovers of the world, I don’t even posess.  But I’m willing to learn and thats more important than anything else.  Right?

Let’s put it this way, every man has the potential of being a great lover - some have just not lived up to their potential. Believe it or not, the job of teaching a man about romance is going to be left up to the woman. Why? Because like most,  many men, did not learn about romance and what to do to please a woman. After all, listen to any locker-room talk in high school and boys will ask each other, “Did you get any last night?” “Did you score?” “Did you conquer?” These are not tender, loving questions. These are selfish, immature questions, yet some men of all ages still operate on this level.

A man usually gets sexually aroused by looking at a magazine, an x-rated movie, large breasts or long legs. His response is immediate and his reactions are physical. For most women, sex is not an immediate reaction. It takes at least 30 minutes for her to become aroused. She also needs to feel emotionally connected to respond in a physical way. For a man to become a great lover, he has to be taught sensitivity, tenderness and patience.

When asked, men who are very romantic usually attribute their knowledge to a woman who told them what they needed from them romantically. Some men were lucky enough to learn about romance from their sisters who actually taught them what women respond to and how they like to be treated. Others have had experienced women give them lessons. Still other men have said that they have had women leave them because they weren’t romantic enough and so the second time around they learned to do things differently.

Here are points to remember:

1) A woman gets aroused by words - I don’t know any man who goes into a bookstore and buys a gothic novel. Men are much more visual.

2) A man’s hormone level is at the highest level in the morning; so many times he wakes up and wants to make love. Her hormone level is highest in the evening and that’s why she likes to make love after they’ve had a lovely evening together.

3) After a couple makes love, a man produces a hormone that puts him to sleep and a woman produces a hormone that makes her wide awake. So she wants to cuddle and there he is snoring! So she thinks, “He’s just using me.”

The bottom line: we are very different and we need to learn, understand and talk about our differences. You may feel embarrassed the first few times but it’s worth it. For a man to become a good lover, it’s going to require a woman becoming a good teacher.

If there’s every a moment in your life that capture your every attention, its a moment like this.  As you all may know, I’m in the market to find a car to fit into the family’s need and my  sick obsession of gadets and luxury.  Well here it is:

The BMW CS Concept, production model to be release in 2010.  That means I have 2-3 years to save up for this sweet, sweet treat.  Gotta really get my budget going to meet my needs.  Maybe I’ll cancel the wedding.  Oh no, just kidding!  Really Jo’(if you’re reading this post) I was kidding.  But folks look at the ass of this beauty.

Oh man what an ass! I mean the car, that is.  The CS seems to come pack with all the amendities and much more.  The cockpit along is a marvel to behold.  BMW has really gone the extra mile to produce a very competitive machine.

Now, If I’m not mistaken the CS will morst likly replace the LS.  And if thats the case you’ll probably be looking at $100k car sitting in my driveway.  I’m not even mad at you if you see otherwise, you know what I say all the time.  Don’t hate, Donate.